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You can be experienced, capable and trusted at work — and still quietly struggle with self-doubt. On the outside, you may be doing your job, delivering results and handling responsibility. But on the inside, it can feel very different. You replay conversations. Question decisions you've already made. Worry that you've said the wrong thing. Wonder whether you handled something well enough. Perhaps you hesitate to speak up or find yourself looking to other people for reassuranc

Why I use the Energy Leadership Index (ELI) in my coaching.

Overthinking can be exhausting. You replay conversations, question decisions you've already made, imagine everything that could go wrong and spend so long trying to work out the right thing to do that sometimes you end up doing nothing at all. And the frustrating part is that you may already know you're overthinking. Knowing you're doing it doesn't necessarily make it stop. That's because overthinking isn't always the real problem. Often, it's a response to something happenin

Perhaps you've already had counselling or therapy. You've explored your past. You understand yourself much better than you once did. You may know where some of your beliefs, fears and patterns came from — and perhaps therapy helped you enormously. And yet you still find yourself thinking: I understand why I do this. So why am I still doing it? You still overthink. Still doubt yourself. Still find it difficult to set boundaries. Still worry about what other people think. Still

Have you ever found yourself reacting in a familiar way and wondered afterwards: Why did I do that again? Perhaps you agreed to something you didn't want to do, avoided a difficult conversation, became defensive, doubted a perfectly reasonable decision or found yourself caught in another cycle of overthinking. We all develop habitual ways of thinking, feeling and responding. And because they're familiar, they can happen so automatically that we don't even notice them. That's

In January 2019, I decided to take up golf. Partly, I wanted a new challenge. But I was also looking for something that would get me outside, away from screens and give my mind somewhere else to be. Golf turned out to be rather good at that. And, several years later, I'm still playing. It's difficult to play golf anywhere but in the present One of the things I love about golf is the concentration it demands. When you're standing over a ball, thinking about the terrible shot y

Have you ever found yourself thinking: Why does this keep happening? Perhaps you repeatedly end up feeling responsible for other people's emotions. You avoid saying what you really think because you're afraid of conflict. You give too much, struggle to say no or find yourself seeking reassurance that everything is okay. Or perhaps certain people seem to trigger reactions in you that feel completely disproportionate to what's actually happening. Different relationship. Differe